Last week I took a selfie of my heart and wrote honestly of the selfishness that plagues many of us, but especially young unmarried women. This week I want to ask, "Have you ever considered Christ's singleness?"
I can almost see many of you purse your lips, squint your eyes, and ponder that question.
We consider Amy Carmichael's singleness, we consider Corrie Ten Boom's singleness, and we consider Paul's singleness. But we never quite stop to consider that the only perfect example we have was also single! The realization that Christ was single on earth, still looking ahead to the glorious day when He could receive His bride, the church, was paradigm-shattering for me. (Click here to read what I wrote when I first recognized this.)
If Christ was tempted in every way that I am, then that means that He too was tempted to discontentment and selfishness .
Hebrews 2:17-18 provides two of the most comforting verses in Scripture: "Therefore, in all things He had to be made like His brethren, that He might be a merciful and faithful High Priest in things pertaining to God, to make propitiation for the sins of the people. For in that He Himself has suffered, being tempted, He is able to aid those who are tempted."
When Pity attempts to throw you a party, remember that Jesus admitted in Matthew 8:20 that He had "nowhere to lay His head."
When Selfishness attempts to suck you in to put "Me Me Me" at the top of the priority list, remember that Jesus only had 33 years on earth to accomplish His purpose. I fear these are the years that we singles waste the most, using them to grow up in the world rather than to change the world.
Jesus was not defined by singleness, but by His Sonship to His Father. So I should not be defined by my relationship status, but by my daughtership to the King!
Nowhere in Scripture is Christ called "unmarried."
Nowhere in Scripture is Christ called "single."
So while, yes, it is encouraging to consider that Christ is our perfect example in singleness, it is telling to understand that He is called Son of God at least 45 times, and that He refers to God as His Father even more than that.
The beauty and mystery of each of our life stories will come into focus only from the vantage point of eternity. For then we will realize that even the God-ordained relationship of marriage is only temporary, and the fullness of eternity brings with it the marriage of us, the Bride of Christ, to Christ Himself.
With an engagement like that, who could waste this betrothal period of life in selfishness?
“Camargue Horse,” © 2008 wolfgang staudt, used under a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial license: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc/3.0/.
Scripture taken from the New King James Version. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.